Ok, it's true. Dating in your 30's and (almost) 40's is difficult. I mean, when you're younger, you still believe that the fairytale romance still exists. Whis is a great dream if you can hold onto it.
Most of the people I know are now in their early to late 30's (yes, there are some exceptions, but we're not talking about YOU this time). Almost all of them who I have talked about relationships to have been hurt at least once . Some are downright scared to get involved again...
Most of us can't decide if we even want to be get close to anyone, let along get into a relationship. I know that personally, I miss the closeness of a lover. But I don't miss the "drama" and all the other stuff that typically seems to go along with a romantic coupling.
Ok, we're a cynical bunch. We have baggage. We've been so soured by love in the past, that we just don't want to deal with it anymore. I really can't blame us. Because getting hurt really sucks.
We're all looking for a normal, sane person to be with us. But that's impossible, because at this point in our lives, we're ALL insane! So, I reiterate what I said a few blogs back. I simply give up on the whole relationship thing.
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Thursday, April 26, 2007
Monday, March 12, 2007
Don't Dream it's Over
Once I had a dream. I dreamed that I would find my true love. The person who was "the one." You know the feeling, you finish each other's sentances, they think like you do. They actually "get you."
Now, I know life is never perfect. I'm a realistic peson, there are going to be times when you and your "soulmate" aren't exactly seeing eye to eye. But if they are indeed they are "the one," they will understand those moments and as a couple you get through them.
I'm tired of chasing that dream. Everytime I think that I have found what I thought I was looking for I get hurt. Another piece of my heart broken and scarred. I know sometimes that I want to have that something so bad, that I will look past everything that's telling me to run away and throw myself into a relationship with wild abandon. Some people call that following your heart. Others call it just plain foolish.
I starting to think that it's the later. The last time that I tried this, I entered into a relationship that was filled with lies and deception from the first day--and I knew it. But I chose to ignore it and dive in head first into a pool with no water in it. You know what happened, I crashed into the bottom of the pool and had to pick up the pieces again..
It is said that love finds you when you're not looking for it. Well, I'm not looking for it anymore. I'm not willing to let myself get hurt again. I'm just focussing on being the best person that I can be. I've got my life together and things are ok.
Now, I know life is never perfect. I'm a realistic peson, there are going to be times when you and your "soulmate" aren't exactly seeing eye to eye. But if they are indeed they are "the one," they will understand those moments and as a couple you get through them.
I'm tired of chasing that dream. Everytime I think that I have found what I thought I was looking for I get hurt. Another piece of my heart broken and scarred. I know sometimes that I want to have that something so bad, that I will look past everything that's telling me to run away and throw myself into a relationship with wild abandon. Some people call that following your heart. Others call it just plain foolish.
I starting to think that it's the later. The last time that I tried this, I entered into a relationship that was filled with lies and deception from the first day--and I knew it. But I chose to ignore it and dive in head first into a pool with no water in it. You know what happened, I crashed into the bottom of the pool and had to pick up the pieces again..
It is said that love finds you when you're not looking for it. Well, I'm not looking for it anymore. I'm not willing to let myself get hurt again. I'm just focussing on being the best person that I can be. I've got my life together and things are ok.